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WORKAHOLISM
If there was a
category that I continue to fall back into it would be this one.
Even after 13 years of recovery, I tend to mood alter with work. It is safe, predictable, and I have the ability to
rationalize that work is constructive and therefore I must be too.
One of the common
characteristics I see with workaholics is that they are defined by what they
do. I work hard and long,
therefore, I must be a dedicated employee.
The problems that arise directly affect the relationships in their
lives. The signs and symptoms are
closely related to alcoholism that it is scary.
Those who practice
this addiction have been accused of having affairs because it feels like the
spouse is being cheated. In
reality, they are.
Signs and symptoms:
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Statements like:
“I am doing this for you and the kids.”
“No one appreciates how hard I work.”
“You don’t understand, they need me there all the time.”
“Just let me get this one project done, and I will spend more
time with you and the kids.” (Then
the project is completed, the person continues working day and night and
another broken promise to add to the list).
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No vacation time being taken.
If it is, the employee spends time on the telephone, at work,
discussing work with others, etc.
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They are usually under a high degree of
stress. Anxiety fills their
lives and the fear of being let go haunts them.
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When you ask them how their life is going,
they respond with remarks about work, not self.
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Inside of the workaholic, they have already
decided that being at work is better than being at home.
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No intimacy.
No communication. Sex drive is diminished.
Romance is gone. Work,
work, work.
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This addiction is almost as bad as a food
addiction. We have to work to
survive in today’s world. Therefore,
it requires a balance of work and play to accomplish recovery in this area. Remember, as the workaholic separates themselves from work
addiction, withdrawal will become evident and the possibility of a relapse
evident.
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