F.R.E.E.   Family Recovery thru Education & Empowerment


John 14:6 Helps Son Heal After Fathers' Death

This past weekend provided me with a new insight into God's plan.

I was asked to do a memorial service for a man who attended our church.  I did not realize the impact this ceremony would have on my life and the lives of the people attending the service.

After meeting with the family, it became apparent to me that I had more in common with this man than I knew.  We are both the stepfather of six children.  Both of us worked a program of recovery.  We each have a son who we abandoned as we worked toward our own selfishness and self-centeredness.  I knew this man’s young son would be present at the service, and I wanted to touch him in some way to let him know that his father had succeeded in changing his life.

As I prepared my notes, I planned to use the book of John and the verse John 14:6 in my service.  I read it again as I have so many times.  Somehow this time the meaning was amplified to me.

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life.  No one comes to the Father except through me.”  I had no way of knowing if this young man knew Christ, but I knew his father did.  I decided to go through Christ to bring this young man to his earthly father and then to his Heavenly Father.

While performing the service, these words slipped out of my mouth:  “Remember him for who he had become, now what he was.”  I paused, and watched a young man, one who never knew his father until a stranger shared something about the man, fall apart.

The six stepchildren and biological son reminded me of the believers sharing their possessions in Acts 4:32:  All the believers were one in heart and mind.  No one claimed that any of his possessions was his own, but they shared everything they had.  Six children sharing with a son healed a torn relationship strained by years of addiction.

The son approached me later and indicated to me that he would like to talk in private.  I knew this was going to be one of the most enlightening experiences of my life.

The story that was told to me was one I have heard many times.  Somehow, this one had a different feeling to it.  This young man shared with me that he had turned out just like his father.  The realization that he wasn’t proud of his dad or himself was devastating to him.  The son shared that he had been able to turn his life around just about the same time that his father did.  For the past year, in different parts of the state, each was doing what God wanted him to do: repairing relationships, committing his life to Christ and asking, for a daily reprieve from his addiction.

This I thought was enough considering the circumstances, but God always saves the best for last, it is called a miracle.

The son asked me if his father had been a good father to these six children.  I assured him that he was.  I could see the tears begin to develop in his eyes, the urgency to fight them back.  His nose began to sniffle and his throat was dry as he spoke these simple words:  “I’m glad he found a family, someone he could love.”

This statement opened the door for healing and forgiveness.  His struggle was over just like his father’s.  Today, they are free because John the apostle, wrote the book of John for new Christians and non-Christians to prove that Jesus is the Son of God.

John 14:6 is a powerful verse that to some, without clarification, can seem overwhelming to anyone.  All we have to do is have faith and the process becomes available for our struggles to disappear as they flow through Christ and on to His Father.

Saturday, July 18, 1998



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